Underachieving is Okay.

Striving relentlessly to succeed, we often end up in burnouts from overworking. The ambition to succeed is ingrained into our brain since childhood from parents or society that constantly tell us that you must succeed in the workplace to afford shinny BMWs, the latest gadgets, or luxurious vacations. These things may bring temporary joy but not ever lasting happiness. They are like salt water. The more you drink, the thirstier you become. What really matters in life may have nothing to do with how wealthy and successful you are. Sometimes you just need to relax in the face of a busy life with many demands. Life may be happier if we are less ambitious and stop craving for more. We can breathe easier and begin to feel free as pressure to achieve lessens. Clinging very strongly to success causes suffering according to Buddhism. Detachment does not mean that you have to give up everything and go live in a cave. It simply means it is okay to be mediocre and live an ordinary life without material wealth. Life would be simpler or happier without the pressure to constantly achieve.

Why me?

Life is full of joy but also setbacks or disappointments. When they occur, we often ask ourselves, “Why me.” We may spend endless time pondering on why we did not receive that deserved promotion, why our relationship ended in a divorce, why we received a notice of job layoff, and why we lost our entire savings on risky investments. Worrying events that have already happened is futile, heart trenching, and hinder to our happiness. Remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel regardless how dire the situation it may seem. Even though there aren’t too many things we can control, we do however can control our feeling or attitude to overcome adversities and view them as opportunities to reflect or make corrections and open the true potential of the next stage of our life. In short, pick ourselves up and move on!

To bear Insult and Disgrace

Ability to forebear is a virtue. .. a moment of anger can destroy one’s lifetime of merits.

Spousal abuse, child abuse or drive-by shootings is a result of inability of people to control their emotions. If we want peace and order in our lives, we must put an end to our negative emotions.

Losing control over our emotions can lead to negative consequences that may change the course of history and profoundly impact the lives of many generations.

Enduring pain and hardship from insult and disgrace takes tremendous efforts to, but it is an act of courage and great confidence in your ability to forebear. It is NOT an act of cowardice. It takes strength, wisdom and compassion to resolve conflicts by reasoning and kindness.

However, we need to define our boundaries. We need to stand up for ourselves when others treat us badly or put us down. Often this requires bravery. We need to forego our feat and take a stance of our beliefs.

A Short Visit to Italy

After endless repeated talks about completing the technology transfer and making a trip to visit Modella, Italy from which the knowledge to be acquired for almost two years, we finally left on May 27, 2009 from Minneapolis to Amsterdam. The ride was smooth and pleasant despite some discomfort from swelling of my feet and angles. The plane, Airbus A330, had on-flight entertainment, such as music, video games and video-on-demand movies. The flight took nearly eight hours to Amsterdam. WE stopped for a coffee break before heading to Bologna, Italy. The coffee was quite different – bitter, but rich in favor. We finally arrived after a 2-hour flight. As I stepped into the Airport, a group of people in dark-blue uniform seemingly was looking for certain arriving guests. They turned out to be security agents. One of them stopped me and questioned where I was heading and where I lived. At first, I was annoyed since they did not stop anyone else. Later, I realized that they were only performing their duties to spot for unusual travelers. My travel partner who had visited Bologna many times before decided to take a different route to Medolla – our final destination. The drive took much longer than he had anticipated because of the rain storm and detours due to a major fire occurring on the path to our destination. However, I got to see many small towns, farms and ruins along the way. Finally, we arrived at La Cantina hotel at Medolla – 2 Km from the company at which we would conduct business. The hotel was luxurious. My suite had a separate bedroom on a second level. It had a sofa, a view of the garden, dinning table, bar, refrigerator stocked with wine, beer, water and chocolate bars. The hospitality was great – the hotel offered free champagne, appetizers. The dinner was delicious – a 3-course meal – egg and cheese keesh, squid and fettuccini, mixed grilled meat (lamb, sausages and veal), and lemon drink with vodka, red wine.



Second day – After a wonderful breakfast with fresh fruits, egg, and Italian sausages, we worked all day until 19:00. They (the people at Rand) took us to dinner at a farm house that had been converted into a restaurant in the country. We had salami + assorted dehydrated meat wrapped with bread first, followed by truffle salteed with pasta (pasta con tartuti) as the main dish + red wine.



Third day – the same routine. They took us to another farmhouse for dinner. It was a stormy night. Not too many customers there as a result. We had BBQ lamb, Italian sausages and veal, red wine, and plum/lemon vodka after dinner drink. The owner was glad to see us and liked to talk about the U.S.


Fourth day – We returned the rental car to Bologna Airport in the morning and then took the hotel shuttle to Sheraton. It took almost an hour to find the shuttle since the sign was located in a remote parking lot and no one seemed to speak English well for direction. Since we had the entire day for ourselves, we decided to take a train to Firenze. The train ride was very comfortable and quiet as it was powered by electricity. It was a great way to see the mountains, valleys, screams, structures and buildings of small towns. We had no idea where to go when we stepped off the train and simply walked around the streets and took a lot of pictures. Florence is one of the most popular travel cities in Italy and holds many attractions for the tourist. Florence, a Renaissance city in the heart of Tuscany, has some of Italy's best museums, beautiful cathedrals and churches, and interesting streets and squares with elegant buildings and shops. Florence's most famous square is Piazza della Signoria, the heart of the historic center and a free open-air sculpture exhibit. The Loggia della Signoria holds some important statues including a copy of Michelangelo's David. The piazza has been Florence's political center since the middle ages and Florence's town hall, the medieval Palazzo Vecchio, sits on the piazza. The palazzo contains elaborately decorated public rooms and private apartments. Around the piazza are cafes and restaurants. Unfortunately, we only had a few hours to spend there as we must return to Bologna to prepare for an early flight next morning (at 06:00) back to the States. I like to visit Italy again on vacation instead of a business trip! The food was great, but did not have enough time for site seeing. There are so many places that I want to visit.

Finding My Way

The road seems endless.
The destination is nowhere in sight.

I keep going and going in search of
the meaning of life.
There are many obstacles ahead, but
they do not deter me from my relentless
search.

Suddenly, I realize that there is no
need to search. The answer is all
within me.

I am finally free when I stop searching,
living each day as it was the last and
stopping any attachment or clinging to anything
in this materialistic, impermanent world.

There is nothing to fear. Death is not the ending
but the beginning of the demise of the conscious
or egotistic mind that blocks the truth or reality.

Delimna with U.S. Postal Office

I do not trust the U.S. Postal Office (USPS) in their ability to deliver on time. I have two recent bad experience. First, I submitted a claim for medical expenses to Acclaim, but was never received or processed. It may not be the fault of the USPS, however. Second, the USPS returned my tax return on April 17 (two days after the deadline) because of insufficient postage. I used two postal stamps ($.84), which had been sufficient over the years. The returned envelope indicated that an additional $0.16 was needed. That’s asinine! I took the tax return to the postal office and had it weighted. The auto postal machine showed that a postal fee of $.59, which is less than the value of two stamps ($.84). With that info in mind, I then took it to a postal clerk. She said that it was not the weight but the thickness (max. of 1/4 inches) or the size exceeded the limit. That was just preposterous. There were about 10 sheets of paper inside the envelop. It’s possible that as papers are folded twice the thickness may exceed the ¼” limit since the center is hollow. If that’s case, simply press them down for a few minutes should bring the thickness down significantly. The postal clerk did not prove that was the case. Instead, she quickly struck all markings (including postal due) with a marker, stamped it, deposited into a bin (so that it would be difficult to fetch), and said, "I am sorry. You should have the Postal Office weigh and measure the tax return." I thought that was one of the most stupid statement ever made. Does the postal office really want to service all tax-filers who choose to file their tax returns by mail? My perception was that she simply did not want to admit that the Postal Office had made a mistake.

Anyway, I will do all transactions online if it is available. It's simply more reliable and quicker.

The Recent Economic Downturn - A Buddhist View

Emotional sufferings emerge as a result of the loss of jobs, home, retirement and investment savings during the recent troubling economic times. Even if we are fortunate, perhaps family members or friends have lost their jobs. We are expected to work more without additional pay to pick up the work left by workers that were let go. The future remains uncertain despite statements from the Federal Reserve that this deep recession will end soon.

It is difficult to bear the pain of losing our possessions, our money, our home, our job, and our style of living. Detachment from these things becomes insurmountable as we are so attached to our social and economic status as viewed by ourselves, our family, friends, colleagues and community. However, our difficulty in letting go of our attachments blinds us from the realization that attachment is the root of suffering and we should simply accept things as they are as we have no control and everything in this universe is constantly changing – nothing is permanent.

According to Buddhism, everything is impermanent and interdependent. The economy will decline. The values of our home and investment will decline. We simply cannot expect them to grow indefinitely. Our failure to recognize this fact kept us fully invested in the seemingly ever rising stock market despite its impermanent nature and inherent risks. However, we need to resist the temptation to withdraw money completely from the market in fear that current market condition will continue to fall. Remember, nothing is permanent and the market will recover eventually.

To overcome suffering, we must accept the way it is – the ever changing nature of all physical and mental phenomena. We have to face our fears and disturbing emotions directly, change our distorted views shaped by our experience and upbringings, and open our hearts to discover our true nature - loving kindness, compassion. Meditate to relief stress, let go of negative and unproductive feelings, and feel fortunate of what you already have. We have the freedom to choose how we feel about ourselves and others. We can choose love over hatred, joy over sadness, and generosity over greed. We will succeed if we persist.

Who is to Blame for the Recession?

Is it the government, Wall Street, or the public? Let’s start with the premise that the cause of recession is the burst of the real-estate bubble. Clearly Congress was responsible for the housing boom because it pressured or influenced Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac to purchase low-quality loans as an attempt to promote home ownership for everyone including the poor. Congress continued to pour hundreds of billions of taxpayer dollars into housing subsidies even in the midst of a housing boom.
The Federal Reserve, controlled by the federal government, fueled the boom further by excessive money supply to the financial institutions that originated hundreds of billions of dollars in bad loans and invented Credit Default Swaps (CDS) designed to shift the risk of default to a third-party, as this shifted risk did not count against their regulatory capital requirements. Nevertheless, credit default swaps did not directly cause this problem but may have exasperated it as CDS allowed banks to lend more because of lower capital requirements . The Federal Reserve then significantly contracted the money supply to bring about the financial crisis that has widely dispersed throughout the economy. The collapse in the financial institutions was exacerbated by government interference with the aid of people like Henry Paulson and others who think they are smarter than their predecessors to rescue the financial crisis.
Should we trust the government who caused this mess to fix the problem? Clearly, they should. However, the fiscal stimulus proposed by the Obama Administration in the form of tax cuts or infrastructure spending is highly questionable as people may spend their money on paying down debts or buying imports while the economic impact of infrastructure spending may take years.
So, who is to blame? I say we are all to blame. The government is the blame for its monetary policy. Wall street is the blame for its risky lending practices and questionable financial derivatives (such as credit swaps). We are to blame for electing the politicians who caused this mess.

The True Meaning of Success

During times of economic downturn, the mantra is job survival instead of career success. In fear of financial hardship, we strive hard to keep our jobs and may experience burnouts from working extra hours. However, a job loss is not the end of the world. It may open up opportunities for a job or another career that you really want. Step back and assess your skills, interests and wants. Have a clear vision for your ideal work and support it with a plan. Take time to "smell the roses", relax, meditate, and participate in activities of enjoyment or fun. Identify the true meaning of success, whether it is financial independence, great health, first-class relationships, academic achievements, and career advancements. Why are they important to us? What is the worst outcome if we do not achieve great success? What makes us happy? Can we simplify our lives by letting go of life’s complications, cravings and learning to appreciate what is in front of us at any particular moment? The greatest suffering of life, according to Buddhism, is attachment and comparison to others. Attachment is of many forms: material possessions, praise or approval, status, fame, reputation, pleasures. We work hard to accumulate and protect our possessions or fame but must leave them behind at the time of death. Therefore, why are we spending endless efforts striving for material success? Why don’t we spend time on things that are of importance, enjoyment, and meaning?

Our Visit to California During the 2008 Xmas Holidays

As usual, our annual visit to the San Francisco Bay Area and Los Angles is always filled with excitements, joy and frustrations. We used to stay at my sister's house in Alameda for a week and another at my older brother in LA. However, we switched to staying at Four Point Sheraton hotel at Pleasanton, about 20 miles from my mom's condo in Oakland, for the last couple of years to have more freedom. This year we decided to stay in a hotel in proximity to Oakland. Located in Alameda, the Coral Reef hotel in which we stayed for 7 nights was large in space but the sofa bed was damaged and the kitchen was completely emptied (no plates, cups or dishes, kitchenware). In other words, the kitchen was almost useless and the uncomfortable sofa bed was the leading cause of my backache in the morning. Nevertheless, the hotel was adequate and situated in a very nice area - proximity to the beach, the shopping mall, a bowling alley, restaurants and relatives. The weather was unusually cold with temperatures in the 40 °F during the day. It rained almost all week. The wetness, along with the chill, was tough to bear albeit we live in Minnesota in which the temperature normally hovers in the teens during the winter months. We did not let the weather to stop us (or dampen our spirit) from walking on the beach, shopping at the malls (both in Alameda and downtown San Francisco), visiting friends and family members. We ate mostly at Chinese restaurants for dim sum, won-ton noodle, and garment food at our nephew's birthday reception. We spent an afternoon and evening at my younger brother's house that they had moved in recently. Despite the recent economic downturn and the housing crisis, the value of his house did not decline partly of the continued demand for housing in Alameda because of its proximity to San Francisco and the Silicon Valley. We liked the house - it had a lagoon in the back and the kitchen was big and modern.

After a week in the Bay Area, we drove down to LA to visit more friends and family members. We stopped at the Redwood park in Oakland and then looked at an expensive, new home in Oakland Hills. The house was large (over 4,600 square feet of living space) and had 4 levels or stories, each of which had a magnificent view of the bay, but was beyond affordability. The property tax itself was $20,000 a year. We also looked at a few model homes in a golf-course community at Fairfield previously. They were more affordable (in the $400K range) but the traffic was horrible. It took almost 1.5 hours to travel 30 miles from/to Oakland. We finally arrived at LA at night after a few stops for restrooms, food and cold medicine.

We met our dear friends, Daryl and Debbie who moved from Minnesota to Orange County over 10 years ago. They were excited to see our kids since they had not seen them for almost 4 years. Daryl was still in pain because of a recent back surgery. He quit his job as director of marketing of an aerospace company in LA. The reason for quitting was not disclosed. I guess he was tired of working and needed a break from stress and corporate politics. He assured us that he was not worried about getting another job since they were financially independent and had health coverage. Debbie was cheerful as usual. We talked about life and plan for retirement if ever possible in light of the recent economic downturn. Apparently, the job market in Southern California was just as dire as that in Minnesota. Many people had lost their jobs.

We (I, my wife, my brother and his wife) went to a Chinese music concert at a casino near Palm Desert. The drive from Glendale took much longer than had expected due to traffic congestion especially in one section of highway heading to a factory outlet. Luckily the show started one hour late because the entertainers were stuck in traffic also. The songs (oldies targeted for the older baby boomers) were great. We liked our seats since they were no more than 20 feet from the center of the stage. The seating accommodation would have been better if they had provided stage seating. I had a hard time of seeing over a guy (with a large and tall body) in front of me. The drive home was much quicker due to relatively lighter traffic at night.

The next couple of days we visited the Descanso Gardens, the Los Angeles County Arboretum and Botanic Gardens. Many plants were still blooming while some trees were bursting with vivid fall color (see pictures) in the middle of winter - a sharp contrast to the scenery in Minnesota in which the snow covered the ground. One noticeable about the LA County Arboretum was that Peacocks were wandering freely all over the park. We also shopped in Little Tokyo (also known as Japan Town) and Chinatown as usual. Shopping is my wife's passion.




We (my kids and wife included) really enjoyed this trip even though we were plagued with a cold and stomach flu. It was a rough plane ride back home. My stomach started to bloat at the airport and persisted during the flight. The chewable pepdobismo tablet did not help. I had to visit the toilet a few times in the plane. Right after the plane landed, we stopped by a drug store to purchase pepdobismo in liquid form which provided much better relief.